WRITINGS

 


BOOKS

COUPLES THERAPY

A NONTRADITIONAL APPROACH. (1981).New York: Wiley. You can order directly from Wiley (800)-225-5945, or www.wiley.com, as well as from www.amazon.com, www.barnesandnoble.com, and so on.

The original statement of Dan's approach, which some therapists say remains their favorite among his three books. Critiques the psychodynamic, behavioral, and systems approaches. Points out that many of the theories and concepts in our field are pathology-oriented and presents a nonpathologizing alternative.

"Among the best things I have read in years. Absolutely superb. Will instantly become standard reading for all my students and key materials for me to study over and over. Wile's book is just beautiful, in the very top rank of anything being written about psychotherapy today and deserves the widest possible audience."
---- Paul Wachtel, Ph.D., author of Psychoanalysis and Behavior Therapy


AFTER THE HONEYMOON

HOW CONFLICT CAN IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP. Revised Edition. (2008). Oakland: Collaborative Couple Therapy Books. Written for the general public but also useful for therapists. Available from Amazon and Barnes & Noble (The one dated 2008 is the revised edition)

"This book by Dan Wile is a classic, now revised to offer couples even more insight into how to turn the maze of everyday conversations into a fascinating path that leads towards ever more intimacy and relationship satisfaction. Not only that, it is just plain fun to read!"

---- Sue Johnson, University of Ottawa and author of Hold me Right: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love


AFTER THE FIGHT

USING YOUR DISAGREEMENTS TO BUILD A STRONGER RELATIONSHIP. (1993). New York: Guilford Press. You can order directly from Guilford (800)-365-7006, or www.guilford.com, as well as from www.amazon.com, www.barnesandnoble.com, and so on.

The most up-to-date book on Wile's approach. Built around a fight a couple has one evening and their therapy session the next day - with emphasis on the moment-to-moment inner dialogue of each partner. Constructed on the premise that any small piece of conflictual couple behavior contains within it the main problematic issues in all relationships. The therapist's own inner dialogue is described, bringing out feelings therapists rarely reveal.

"An inspirational book. It is one of the most unique and creative books about couples I have ever read. It captures not only the subtleties of couple interactions, but also the nuances of couple therapy. I plan to assign this book to all of my graduate students, and will open it myself whenever I need to be reminded of how exciting it is to study and treat couples."
----Neil Jacobson, Ph.D., University of Washington

"I am re-reading After the Fight and I think it is a wonderful book. Just really terrific. I think that the great strength of the book is the way it helps the clinician puzzle through the day-to-day workings of therapy"
----John Gottman, Ph.D., University of Washington

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CHAPTER & ARTICLES

On Couple Therapy

Wile, D. B. (1978). Is a confrontational tone necessary in conjoint therapy? Journal of Marriage and Family Counseling, 4(3), 11-18.

Wile, D. B. (1979). An insight approach to marital therapy. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 5(4), 43-52.

Wile, D. B. (1985). Phases of relationship development. In D.C. Goldberg (Ed.), Contemporary Marriage: Special Issues in Couples Therapy. Homewood, Ill., Dorsey Press. Pp. 35-61.

Wile, D. B. (1994.) An ego-analytic approach to emotion in couples therapy. In Johnson, S. M. & Greenberg, L. S. (Eds.). The heart of the matter: Perspectives on emotion in marital therapy, pp. 27-45. New York: Brunner/Mazel.

Wile, D. B. (1995.) An ego-analytic approach to couple therapy. In Jacobson, N. S. & Gurman, A. S. (Eds.). Clinical handbook of couple therapy, pp. 91-120. New York: Guilford.

Wile, D. B. (1999.) Collaborative couple therapy. In Donovan, J (Ed.) Short-term couple therapy. New York, Guilford, pp. 201-225.

Wile, D. B. (2000.) Opening up a second level in the relationship. The Los Angeles Psychologist. Publication of the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, November-December issue, pp. 8-9.

Wile, D. B. (2002). Collaborative couple therapy. In Gurman, A. S. & Jacobson, N. S (Eds.). Clinical handbook of couple therapy, Third edition. New York: Guilford, pp. 281-307.


On Psychotherapeutic Theory

Wile, D. B. (1972). Negative countertransference and therapist discouragement. International Journal Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, 1(3), 36-67.

Wile, D. B. (1975). Personality styles and therapy styles. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research and Practice, 13(4), 303-307.

Wile, D. B. (1977) Ideological conflicts between clients and psychotherapists. American Journal of Psychotherapy, 31(3), 437-449.

Wile, D. B. (1984). Kohut, Kernberg, and accusatory interpretations. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, and Training, 21(3), 353-364.

Wile, D. B. (1985). Psychotherapy by precedent: Unexamined legacies from pre-1920 psychoanalysis. Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, and Training, 22(4), 793-802.

Wile, D. B. (1987). An even more offensive theory. In W. Dryden (Ed.), Key Cases in Psychotherapy. London: Croom-Helm. Pp. 78-102.


Review Articles

Wile, D. B. (1977). Questioning Sperry's bridge from brain to mind to values. American Psychologist, 32(11), 987-988. (A comment to an article by R. W. Sperry).

Wile, D. B. (1984). The nature?nurture issue in psychoanalysis: A review of Object Relations in Psychoanalytic Theory by Jay R. Greenberg & Stephen A. Mitchell. Contemporary Psychology, 29(11), 885-887.

Wile, D. B. (1985). Hidden moralism in psychoanalysis: A review of How Does Analysis Cure? by Heinz Kohut. Contemporary Psychology, 30(7), 536-539.

Wile, D. B. (1986). The Occupational Hazards of Psychoanalysis: A review of Transference and its Context: Selected Papers on Psychoanalysis by Leo Stone. Contemporary Psychology, 31(4), 278-279.

Wile, D. B. (1986). A snapshot of psychoanalytic theory in the mid 1980ies: A review of Beyond Freud: A Study of Modern Psychoanalytic Theorists, edited by Joseph Reppen. Contemporary Psychology, 31(10), 775-777.

Wile, D. B. (1987). A Master of Indirect Communication: A review of The Wisdom of Milton H. Erickson by Ronald A. Havens. Contemporary Psychology, 32(11), 960-961.
Wile, D. B. (1988). What Couples Therapists are Doing These days: A review of Clinical Handbook of Marital Therapy, edited by N. S. Jacobson & A. S. Gurman. Contemporary Psychology, 33(2) 108-110.

Wile, D. B. (1988). In Search of the Curative Principle in Couples therapy: A Comment on Greenberg, James, and Conry's article, Perceived Change Processes in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. Journal of Family Psychology, 2(1), 24-27.

Wile, D. B. (1989). Psychoanalysis as remedial education: A review of The Mind in Disorder: Psychoanalytic Models of Pathology, by John E. Gedo. Contemporary Psychology, 34(10), 945-946.

Wile, D. B. (1990). Do couples recreate mother-child relationships: A review of In Question of the Mythic Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy, by Ellyn Bader and Peter T. Pearson. Contemporary Psychology, 35(7), 710-711.

Wile, D. B. (1991). Healing the schisms in psychoanalysis: A review of Drive, Ego, Object, & Self: A Synthesis for Clinical Work By Fred Pine. Contemporary Psychology, 36(9), 790-791.

On the Group Therapy Questionnaire

Wile, D. B., Bron, G.D., & Pollack, H.B. (1970). Preliminary validational evidence for the Group Therapy Questionnaire. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 34(3), 367-374.

Wile, D. B., Bron, G.D., & Pollack, H.B. (1970). The Group Therapy Questionnaire: An instrument for the study of leadership in small groups. Psychology Reports, 27, 263-273.

Wile, D. B. (1972). Nonresearch uses of the Group Therapy Questionnaire. (1972). In Pfeiffer, J.W. & Jones, J.E. (Eds), The 1972 Annual Handbook for Group Facilitators. Iowa City: University Associates, Pp.87-89.

Wile, D. B. (1973). What do trainees learn from a group therapy workshop? International Journal of Group Psychotherapy, 23(2), 185-203.

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SELECTED SHORT ARTICLES

1. The Therapist's Major Dilemma
As part of my reaction to a debate in the American Psychologist, I ask at what point to stop validating a client's experience and step in to try to produce change. I answer that validating a client's experience is the way to produce change.

2. A Delicate Balance: Anger is Just a Sentence Away, and so is Intimacy. The recovery conversation that would enable the couple to profit from the fight they just had.

3. How Conversations Cure: The Shift from Fighting to Collaborating. Ways for a therapist to help create this shift.

4. Opening up a Second Level in the Relationship
How to recover from a fight with your partner by creating a metalevel from which to talk about it.

5.A Brief Description of Collaborative Couple Therapy
In my contribution to a panel discussion, I presented this whirlwind account of the major principles of the approach.

6. A View From Above the Fray
An example of creating a platform from which partners can recover from a fight they just had. A modified version was published as a sidebar to “Feeling like partners” by Philip A. Cowan, Carolyn Pape Cowan, and Neera Mehta in Greater Good, Fall/Winter 2005-06. http://peacecenter.berkeley.edu/greater good.html

 

 

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